Monday, May 14, 2018

On Saying Not Right Now

No. It's such a negative word, right? And a word I have a really hard time saying sometimes. My mom reminds me all the time that's been in my inherent nature to stay busy since I was a little girl. I woke up wanting to know the plan, and I'm still that way as we get ready to head into my 27th year. 

I have never loved missing out on things - FOMO (fear of missing out) is a real issue around here. It would make me so upset when I was in college and I had to miss out on a social outing due to another commitment. And along with that, saying no began to get harder and harder. Even now, I spend countless hours on the road trying to fit everything in when I really just need to take a minute to myself. 

But last weekend, I was not scheduled to work at the store and Stephen and I had our staycation at the beach. It was the first weekend that I had absolutely no plans, other than the plan to relax. I had a few things I could have committed to but as Friday approached, I realized how freeing it was to have absolutely nothing on my calendar. I started my work week that next Monday feeling so refreshed. And since then, I'm making plans to say not right now a little more often.

I think in today's day and age, it's hard for everyone to take a step back - with commitments, school schedules, work obligations, social media "expectations" and more, all of a sudden you're drowning in things that are supposed to be fun that end up feeling like a chore. And what kind of life is that? I read a quote from Lysa Terkheurt that said, "We must not confuse the command to love with the disease to please." Wow. How poignant is that? 

Don't get me wrong - the things I may be saying not right now to may be things that I truly want to do. But will it be stressful to fit it in? Will it compromise the down-time needed for my health? Will it conflict with something I already committed to? Those are all things I'm going to set as my goal to ask myself. 

It wasn't until a few weeks ago when I was reviewing my 101 in 1,001 list that I realized that I hadn't read nearly as many books as I did a few years back. I absolutely love reading and it's my little bit of escape. But as of late, I've not made time for it - something that truly makes me content, happy and at peace. Each of us has that - maybe it's a coffee date with a friend, or a golf date with your dad, or a day at the beach with a good book - the thing that makes us feel refreshed and reset. 

But more than that, I want to have more time for the people in my life. I don't need constant activity as much as I need time with the people I love. Whether it's reconnecting with a friend over dinner, celebrating a friend's accomplishment, or having much needed family-time, those are the things I want to have time to say yes to more often. 

And so as we head into this new and crazy work week, that's my goal. Let's say yes a little more to self care, "me time," and healthy relationships and not right now a little more to all the extras.


  1. So well said girl! I sort of pushed myself to get something done yesterday even though it would have been fine if I let it go, but next time I am going to say Not Right Now! xo Biana-BlovedBoston

  2. This is so important and SO hard to do! I think we're all going to have to continue to work on this extra hard as the world develops in a way that calls for our attention 24/7.

  3. This is something that I feel like is really hard but sometimes you have to push yourself to step out of your comfort zone, and try new experiences.

  4. Oh this is something that is so important but so hard to do. I have been trying to do less and actually enjoy life rather than running around doing too much. I think we could all work on this.

  5. My husband tells me this all the time. You just can't say no. I need to work on this as well. Great reminder, it's so hard to do, but so necessary!

    Whitney & Blaire
    Peaches In A Pod

  6. Yes girl! I’m someone who plans everything out and rarely says no but then I find myself drained and exhausted. Sometimes you just have to say no and take time for yourself. I’m glad you did!

  7. I think this is something that we struggle with as a society as a whole. Finding the right balance in life is so tough!

    Amy Ann
    Straight A Style

  8. Very well said. Have a great week.


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