Wednesday, January 8, 2014

True Life: I Have FOMO


Defined, FOMO is the fear of missing out, and to say I have FOMO would be an understatement. I want to be involved in anything and everything, which makes me feel a little stretched thin sometimes. I've lived in Charlotte going on 5 months, and I've stayed here 2 weekends. That's 2 weekends out of 18. I'd say that's a problem. There's just always something else going on in another location that makes me feel as though I need to be there. There are some things that I wouldn't miss for the world, like birthdays, Christmas parties, girls weekends, and the like. But at some point, I'm going to have to learn that it's okay to miss out on a few things here or there.

In college, I had the fear of missing out to some extent. If friends were going out, even if I was super tired or busy, I would manipulate my schedule so I could go too. But, it's only gotten worse since I graduated -- and I think it has to do with holding on to that part of my life.

My best friend and I were talking the other day about how different things are now that college is over and how it's been really hard for us to get used to it. In college, life was "easy." I lived with two of my best friends, the rest of my friends and boyfriend lived no more than 5 minutes away, and my parents were a hop, skip, and jump down I40. It was almost hard to miss out on things because everything was right there surrounding me. 

Working full-time at a demanding job, living four hours away from home, and not having my friends around is definitely different than how life was from college, but I have to start adapting to new life instead of holding on to the old one. Needless to say, I want nothing more than to maintain the relationships I formed in college -- those are my very best friends -- but at the same time, it's okay to adjust to something new, and better yet, want to adjust to something new.

So, I need to remember that I can do anything, but not everything, and that's okay. Fear of missing out is common in our culture, especially with social media advertising anything and everything fun that someone else is doing. But, more than likely, that person has FOMO, too. And that's okay.

I know I'm not the only one...here's to saying no to FOMO.

9 comments:

  1. Girl, I totally know how you feel. I went through these exact same feelings when I graduated from college 3.5 years ago (wow - time flies!). I moved 3 hours away from home to a big city, Chicago, where only my boyfriend and 2 friends lived. It was definitely the adjustment and I'm not lying when I say it probably took a full year to "move on" from college. There were lots of ups and downs but just hang in there! It gets much better :)

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  2. I am the queen of FOMO. I, like you, am never in town and always want to be where people are, things are going on...and definitely don't want to miss out! Sometimes it's stressful!!!

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  3. I DEFINITELY have a case of FOMO..thankfully it has gotten better as I've gotten older. :)

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  4. Could not have said it better myself! FOMO is something I have struggled with this year while traveling and I always get sad when I see my friends hanging out together back home. I constantly have to remind myself that I'm enjoying my own little adventure and that I need to live in the moment I've been given! Thank you for sharing from your heart :-)

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  5. Funny you posted this today! I used to have this problem my first year out of school and then I snapped myself out of it because I was EXHAUSTED all the time. I thought I was doing much better until I looked at my monthly schedule for the next 3 months. How am I already planned for the next 3 months? xo

    champagneandsuburbs.blogspot.com

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  6. It sounds like you've got a good handle on how to move forward! My favorite line that you wrote is: I need to remember that I can do anything, but not everything. I'm going to take that to heart too - so, thank you!

    xo, B
    www.BKCsquared.com

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  7. great post!! even after so many years i too suffer from fomo!!
    http://www.docdivatraveller.blogspot.in

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  8. I can totally relate to this...my hubby calls me a gypsy because I am always running from place to place. I just hate to miss out--but in all the craziness I feel like i do end up missing out on just being happy with where I am at and who I get to be with at that time! I am trying this year to learn to be content :) And know that my friends and family will love me even if I can't see them or be with them all as much as I would like!

    Tori
    FashionBlingGirlyThings

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  9. completely agree! i'm the same way. i feel like i need to always be doing something.

    ps welcome to charlotte! i've been here about a year and a half :)

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