Wedding FAQs

Even almost a year later, I still get so many questions about our wedding! I love getting those questions as I did love planning our big day, but I love that occasionally I get a few questions about being a newlywed as well. As we approach our anniversary (August 5th!), I thought I'd share a few questions that I've received recently - and you can check out this post here for even more tips on planning your wedding. 

How do you balance spending time with families so no one feels left out or slighted?

This is a really good question and also a hard one to answer! In our situation, both of our parents live in North Carolina, but mine live in Wilmington and right near us, so we definitely see mine a lot more. We did just have Stephen's parents, sister, brother-in-law, and niece (his sister's family lives in Virginia) down for the weekend and it was fun spending time all together and showing them some of our favorite things to do in Wilmington.

What advice do you have for a bride getting married soon?

Just in enjoy the process! The end goal is that you and your special someone will be married! So enjoy it as it flies by.

Best advice for the engagement and newlywed phase?

This piggy-backs with the above! But honestly, I think it's very key to keep your eye on the fact that at the end of your wedding day, you will be married to the person who you spent your life with. So even if it rains, or your band doesn't play the right songs, or whatever the issue may be, it'll still be a wonderful day.

In terms of being a newlywed, I would say cherish the moments of that first year! I honestly cannot believe how fast this year has gone. It feels like we should be celebrating one month of being married instead of one year - but at the same time, we've gotten into such a great routine that I can't even remember what it was like before we got married. And I love it that way!

What is one thing you've learned in your first year of marriage?

That marriage is so much fun! Seriously, it is. But beyond that, be quick to listen and slow to speak. I'm very opinionated and Stephen sadly gets the worst of me sometimes because he's the person that I'm the most comfortable with. If I get home and something is irritating me, I try to put myself in Stephen's shoes and see how he would react if the roles were reversed. He is very understanding and nine times out of ten, once I do that, I realize that something isn't as big of a deal as I originally thought it was. 

What was your favorite unique thing you did/had at your wedding?

We had a french-fry send off in lieu of a traditional party favor and I think it was a big hit! I hardly ate all day, so I definitely had a few fries before we exited our reception!

Where did you get your bridesmaids' robes?
I ordered both theirs and mine from Plum Pretty Sugar! I absolutely loved them and wished I had ordered the one I purchased them for myself.

Did you have a wedding planner?

I did not - I did have a week-of coordinator and if you opt not to have a planner like I did, I would highly recommend having someone to help you the week of and especially the day of!

If you could change one thing on your wedding day, what would it have been?

I actually get this question quite a bit. As a whole, I wouldn't really change anything because looking back, I loved every moment of our day. If I had to get picky, I would probably have chosen a different band for our wedding and maybe had a smaller wedding as well.

How did you ask your bridesmaids to be a part of your wedding?
I gave each of them a gift and a card! You can check out the post here.

What was your vision for your wedding day?
I wanted our wedding day to truly represent our relationship and I wanted it to include those who meant the most to us! In terms of style, I wanted a classic wedding that included neutrals, black tuxedoes, and an aesthetic that fit our church ceremony and country club reception.